Whenever you have a negative thought or emotion, about yourself, another, or some situation, it’s nice to remember that a thought/emotion is a guest, and guests come and go. A guest will visit for a short time, but will eventually leave. It doesn’t reside with you. Negative thoughts, emotions, &, yes, guests don’t have to be influences in your life, & can only do so if you allow it. Allow your guest(s) to visit, but don’t allow them to set up housekeeping.